May I invite you to dance alone occasionally?

A few years ago I wanted to see a movie and litterally no one was available to join me. A friend said ‘why don’t you go alone’. Alone?! I know tons of people go to the movies alone, but for me at that time it was still a bridge I didn’t yet cross in my mind.

As it was the last day I could see this movie, I decided to stop frantically looking for company and do as my friend told me: I went there alone. It appeared to be fun! I enjoyed the movie and next to that, I had a nice conversation with the person seated next to me.

Just a few weeks later I went dancing at a festival with a small group of friends. After a fun afternoon, the start of the evening felt awkward for me. One friend was caught up in a love affair, one went to see some other friends and vanished in the crowd and the latter went to a restaurant for dinner with his wife. 

At that moment I could have chosen to go home, but, I decided to stay. Honestly, it wasn’t the best night I ever had. While I was fighting against my loneliness, I was dancing alone.

A year later went to the same festival all by myself. With last years lousy memory and the great experience I had at the movies still fresh in my mind, I thought going alone might be as much fun as going with company. Going alone mainly meant: no expectations.

That day, accepting my loneliness, something interesting happened: 

That day, I met a variety of interesting new people.

That day, I found CONNECTION!

Now, I do it more often, dancing alone.

And, yes, it still scares the sh*t out of me. Every time, over and over again I’m scared. But, I cross that line with whole my heart, because it’s worth it.

This month Amsterdam will turn all yellow and black again, because of the Amsterdam Dance Event. If you’re there, have a look around you. You might spot me, amongst friends, or…… 

Dancing alone 💃 

_{^{© Pamela Cools – Wake up your wisdom}}

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