Look at my face in the picture (this was on June 26, this year). Can you Imagine I felt lousy that day?

Here’s what happened:

2 years ago, I was cycling with my son to the Amsterdam Arena. We were looking forward to a fun mother/son-event, a football match. Ajax was playing.

The closer we got to the Arena, the traffic became busier and more chaotic. At a certain moment, a scooter overtook me, a bit too tight. The passenger on this scooter was carrying a shoulderbag with a loose strap. This strap hooked into my bike handle. The handle then flipped 180° and the front wheel of my bike stopped abruptly.

I was very aware of the whole situation. I still remember thinking: ‘What can I do? I cannot do anything.’ and being launched right after that thought. I ended up crashing frontal on the pavement. My jaw broken in two places, the loss of a tooth and a concussion. 

In that moment, realising that I was out of control, I just knew that there was nothing I could do about this situation then just let go. And that was exactly what I did. Honestly, as this happened in a split second, I cannot say that I took the wise decision to let go. Somehow, I just didn’t fight the situation.

Now, let’s go back to June this year, just before the picture was taken. While being in the dentist’s chair, finally getting a new tooth, I could feel that I re-lived the accident once again. Back then my mind took the decision to let go in a split second. Now, lying there, my mind had all the time to take me back to the feeling of injustice that had been done to me by the accident. And it indeed started working like that, bringing me into a victomized position.

When I realised that this thought of injustice would just increase my pain and frustration, I consciously told myself not to step in this trap again (believe me after the accident I did step into this trap more than a few times). It took me a lot of effort, but I was able to take control: I changed the “What a terrible injustice”-thought into a “I’m so lucky today, because I finally get a new tooth”-thought.

Despite the pain and the bruises, I now just felt good that soon I could show my smile to the world again.

What frustration of yours can you let go of? 

_{^{© Pamela Cools – Wake up your wisdom}}

One of the sources that I used to teach myself to re-think is this book:
Neale Donald Walsch – When everything changes, change everything
ISBN 9781444705508

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